Do you believe in you?

The power of the human mind is amazing! You can believe yourself into a mindset of success, focus and desire.

A few weeks after I officially detoxed from the corporate world, I did not know who I was. Not because I was not happy with my decision to leave. In fact, I was ecstatic. But the habits I had built in the 25 years of the working world were hard to rewire.

I woke up every day touching my phone. I was refreshing my personal gmail every few minutes. I was running through tasks over and over again. I was texting and calling people that no longer needed me the same way. The reality was, I was addicted to the executive tasks and habits and I truly had no idea that I was.

See the first week felt like an overdue vacation. Plans with girlfriends, long walks, lounging by the pool, making kids lunches leisurely, shopping daily for fresh produce and making gorgeous meals. But week 2 came, and the plans lessen and the “to do” house projects were dwindling. And then week 3 came, and after a 2nd walk with the dog and a workout, I found myself reaching for my phone and laptop. But I had no reason to reach. I had nothing to do because I was intentionally giving myself space to move on.

But here I was, I was just unclear what to do. I, who for the last decade plus, was that person for every personality I have - volunteer, mom, sister, daughter, executive, mentor, sponsor… I always had an answer. And an inspiring one.

But at that moment… I had no idea what to say or do. I was starring at a phone assuming something would happen. And if I am being honest, I did not know what I wanted to happen.

One day in that week 3 meets week 4, after I fed the kids, dropped them off, walked the dog and got in my workout (all things I dreamed of doing, and still pinch myself that I get to do it!), I sat down at my laptop and said out-loud “what do I think is going to happen?”

I know my why.

I had an idea on my how.

But I did not know if I would, could, should… and then I realized I needed to frame my mindset to I will.

Sounds great, but it is a constant conversation with yourself. I started to talk out-loud (more than normal!) and I would say “I will find clients that align to my 3 needs. I will be able to put my why at the front. I will monetize what I am gifted at doing.” Sounds silly right? It’s okay, I know it does. But it is actually impactful to allow yourself to speak to your psyche. Try it. Write down a desire and then rewrite it as an accomplishment, say it out loud and let it sink in.

Your mindset controls you.

If I am having a low, I pause and find a place in my home that energizes me. I say out-loud what I will do and then I re-frame to what I am doing. It is amazing how quickly you will gain energy and see clarity.

Try it. It can be about anything.